A really kewl pic editor @ BeFunky.com

I was just lazing around on a sunday afternoon when a noble thought struck my mind. I searched for “The most unusual websties” on Google. And guess what?? I was in for a treat..

I happen to visit the very first site in the list of 40 odd sites the author recommends. I must say I really love this kewl site. It puts to shame all the offline image editors (almost nearly). I tried my hand at a couple of my own snaps and here’s how they turned out to be after some kewl editing..

In deep thoughts!!!

 

The 3 musketeers!!!

 

 P.S. Will post some more if i happen to edit some more snaps… Give this site a shot.. I am sure you will love it.

Random updates JLT…

It has been over a month since i last scribbled a thing or 2 on this blog. To cut things really short, i was plain (vanilla) busy. I just couldn’t gather enough time in solitude to putdown something worth ur time.

A friend of mine also commented that I have lost the appetite for humour. Now that’s a seriously funny remark, given the kind of stuff you will find in my archives. I mean not all of them qualify to be humourous but at least one must give it to me for trying… Ok.. I won’t debate that again…

What kept me busy all these days was obviously my work schedule. But I also got a chance to lay my hands on quite a few interesting books. I am kinda midway through 2 books.

1. Take Your Time – Eknath Easwaran

2. English Teacher – R K Narayan

Both these books are equally engaging. I kinda switch between them most of the times. I usually don’t switch between books when i read but here’s a trend breaker!!

This is the 1st book of Eknath Easwaran that I got a chance to read. I must say the author has a charm in his writing. His thoughts, backed with real life (the ones that make you say, “I can so relate to it..” types) examples are simply amazing. I strongly recommend you this book if you have interest in spiritual reading.

The 2nd book has also managed to keep me equally captivated since it reminds me of simplicity. It reminds of the life of a simple south indian couple that has a kid, and are happy, contented in their own world and away from the rat race of city life. It brings back to me the beauty of life in general, in the simplest possible terms. The little things that one can relate with his or her own life, makes it thoroughly enjoyable. I simply loved reading R.K.

Apart from this, I am pretty much the same guy, who still has a lot of appetite for wasting time, and not to mention blogging… (Well the time wasting part that i spoke of, I was referring to reading others’ blogs…) And you thought only your jokes were bad… hah!!

P.S. Feel free to stop by my blog until you find worthier reasons to settle scores with me!!

A for Apathy and E for Empathy

• How many times have you felt it’s easy to criticize people at the drop of a hat?

• How many times have you resorted to whining and complaining about things around you?

• How many times have you chosen to look at the short comings of people around you and turned a blind eye towards their strengths?

• How many times have you cribbed about your current state of affairs and blamed others for it?

If your answer to each amounts to a decent number, chances are you simply being apathetic towards others.

This week I encountered a situation which forced me ask myself these very questions. I had ended up doing all of this on a consistent manner and a good friend of mine called me and ask me to think about it.

Well, here’s what happened. Just to make sure I don’t end up being apathetic again, I am focusing more on the incident rather than who were involved in it.

I was asked to take up a task which involved some existing work to be modified and enhanced. I was successful in the phase I of the enhancement and in fact did it with ease. Then came the real daunting task. Now this task demanded me to dig through, in depth the existing work and identify the impact points before incorporating the changes. As I happened to dig through the same, I discovered that things weren’t that straight forward and look very contrived, to say the least. I was clearly ann0yed with the quality of work left behind  by the person, who had worked on this task before. The task assigned to me clearly required a more detailed analysis and I demanded more time. But to people who hadn’t dug into the details of the task allocated to me, it appeared as a cake walk. They simply couldn’t understand why I would require more time.

Now that’s where the letter “A”  overtook “E”.

In a situation overwhelmed with genuine concerns of delivering a better product, I explained them the reasons why I would need more time to finish the task. At first the explanation seemed very factual and it appeared as though I was simply presenting my case with pure facts that made sense. But as people around me grew curious and they came to terms with the seriousness of the issue, they began to doubt if the task delivered earlier was worth a dime!! Now when I say that, I meant people questioning the prudence of allocation of task to someone!!! Everyone took a pot shot at what they thought should have been done and how the person who had taken up this task had messed it up royally!!!

Amidst all this was my friend. He sensed what yours truly had not thought about. After this big discussion was over, he quietly called me over and said, “I need to tell you something. I understand that all throughout the discussion your concerns were valid and in no way intended to denigrate the person who had done this task. But be very careful in choosing your words when you explain the same to people. I agree that the task you are into, might have been royally messed up. But the person who has worked on it didn’t plot it with an intention. Do you think he loves to hear someone talk about his work, in such bad light, after he is gone? Do you still feel you can doubt his accountability or credibility or commitment? A lot of times, things go wayward not because someone wants it that way. There are other factors beyond ones control. Never forget that in showing your concern over a matter you end up degrading another person or his work, intentionally or unintentionally . You have no right to do it, no matter what!!”

After the above conversation, I really felt that I was so apathetic towards the person who had worked on this task. For a moment I tried to put myself in his shoes and imagined how I would feel if people took pot shots on my work, in my absence!! I felt terrible about my behavior. Agreed, that my concerns were genuine and needed immediate attention. But in the course of expressing my concern, I had made people pass judgment about the person who had finished the task with full honesty and to the best of his abilities. I realize now that I have absolutely no right whatsoever to judge somebody’s work and pass comments on them at the drop of a hat!

No one plans to fail and screw up things deliberately. It’s just that things go out of control at times. The easiest way to react to such a situation is to get annoyed and pass remarks. But I shall refrain from any such acts from here on. I shall try to be empathetic towards people whenever I come across such incidents in my life for I know no one does it intentionally!!!

P.S. Thanks to my friend for having taught me such an important lesson in life!!

New look and feel of my blog

It had been a long time since I had changed my blog theme. Felt like moving on to a new theme from the old one. I came across this 3 column template which caught my attention for 2 reasons.

1. The blue colour which happens to be my favourite.
2. It shows the blog roll on the right! The previous one didn’t:)

I am also happy to kick start (finally) my new blog called ‘Happy 2 program‘ where I plan to jot down my experiences of working with Java/J2ee in specific and object oriented programming general.

P.S. Look forward to your comments and support

What’s in a name?

This post is inspired by a quote from Richard P. Feynman’s book called ‘What do you care what other people think’.

The idea stems from a quote where Feynman says, “There is a lot of difference between knowing the name of something and knowing something“.

It made so much sense to me when I read it. How often do we do engage ourselves into things without knowing the essence of it? We often find people throwing jargons at others. I fail to make sense out of anything that sounds like a jargon to me. After reading this quote, I really began to wonder, how I do things very mechanically, myself, at times, without getting to know something inside out.

Sample this…. The other day, I was chatting with a friend of mine on gtalk and she exclaimed that she felt as though she was on cloud no 9. I just asked her, “Why cloud no 9 and why not 10 or 11?” She was taken by surprise, for she had never (neither had I) given it a thought! Then after a bit of googling, we figured out the meaning of the phrase “Being on cloud no 9″ here.

Isn’t it really amazing how we take things for granted and not explore the reason behind its usage or working methodology? Think about it.

Random thoughts and why they make sense to me than ever before

I was into a habit of reading quotes right from my school days. I still remember have written down all those quotes which used to appear in every page (the footer section)  of ‘Wisdom’ magazine. I have unfortunately misplaced my diary, and I am missing it badly today than ever before. So why does this topic suddenly seem so appropriate to me than the (melo) dramatic  sequel of When A Meets B? Well, I don’t have any specific reasons.

A few quotes that I have come across and which seem so true to me now…

1. “Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel” – Prof. Morrie in the book ‘Tuesdays with Morrie”.

This quote reminds of a story I read in a kannada text book during my school days. It is about a snake, a mongoose and a lady, who kills the mongoose by seeing the blood stains on its mouth and mistaking it for the mongoose killing her child. This happens because of her not knowing the truth completely. Although the above quote might not mean exactly the same, the central idea is the same. Even if you see something, confirm before you declare it as true or false. But the real beauty of this quote is its emphasis on ‘trust’. Trust is such an important things in life! You gotta trust yourself!!

     2. “God may not give you all that you want, but he always gives you all that you need” – Swami Vivekananda.

I read this quote in an email that was shared with me by a colleague of mine. It took a while before I realized its true meaning. But once I did, I was simply amazed at its profound meaning. How true! Isn’t it? It seems so relevant to me because I often spend a lot of my time thinking of all those things I don’t have, or I wish I had, and in due course completely ignore all the beautiful things I already have. It seems to me at times that I have almost lost that ability to see the bright side of anything. But this quote is such a gentle reminder and affirms me that I have all that ‘I need’, if not all that ‘I want’, and I am thankful to god for having given me all I have.

   3.“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of Wisdom” – Thomas Jafferson.

This quote emphasizes the importance of honesty in one’s actions. No matter how much wisdom one gains, all of it will be in vain if one is not honest. So before aquiring wisdom of any sort, I would prefer to aquire honesty. Anything that is built on the strong pillars of honesty has the strength to sustain hardships of any magnitude.

  4. “Failure is just a bend in the road, not the end of the journey” – Unknown

This quote is probably one of my earliest read ones and also one of the longest remembered ones. In spite of being so obvious in its meaning, it is one that takes a lot of time and courage to accept and imbibe it. Why do I say so? It so easy for us to blow a problem out of proportion and make it seem like ‘The Biggest Problem’ in the world. I don’t blame anyone because that’s how our defence mechanism works. In other words, it’s our first response to any external (or internal) threat to our well being. All that follows is a resultant of the actions that were taken to counter the issue. Hence any failure or set back faced, is only a bend in the road and not the end of the journey!!

  5.  “God, give us the serenity to accept the things that cannot be changed, the courage to change the things that should be changed and the wisdom to distinguish one from the other ” – Reinhold Niebuhr

This one is also called the ’serenity prayer’. It is such a wonderful quote. 

The first sentence speaks about the serenity of mind to accept things which cannot be changed in life, and ones which you have to live with. Trust me, accepting things and people around us as they are, is one of the most thoughest things in life to do.

The second sentence speaks of the courage of the mind to change things that ought to be changed. This refers to those short comings or bad (a very relative term) qualities which we might have developed over a period of time and that need to be changed.

The third sentence and the most important one speaks about the wisdom of our mind to distinguish one from another. It is here that one takes an entire life to come to terms with things in life.

I feel that there is a constant battle that goes on in our minds between serenity and courage, every single day and wisdom just waits for its turn!

P.S. I really don’t know what made me post this article before the sequel.

When A meets B – Part I

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this post are purely personal and don’t necessarily reflect those I am associated with.

This thought has been lingering in my mind for quite sometime and I wanted to put it across in a manner that conveys the idea without me having to be overtly obvious in my references. So I choose to use imaginary characters in this post to put forth my views. That’s the farthest I can go and still be “politically correct”. I am not a big fan of pot shots!!

The story revolves around 2 characters and their priorities in life, and how their philosophies drove them towards what they are today, and what they wish to be tomorrow.

A brief introduction of character A 

Character A (Mr. Mysterious, the lesser spoken types) is a guy who believes that he is ‘The Guy’ for the job and has ‘Just the right set of skills to fit the right Role’. Life has been very kind to him and the ‘lady of luck’ has never shown her back to this guy. For him luck means ‘Being at the right place, at the right time, with the right set of people’. For someone who has been around a place for quite sometime, it’s nothing more than a dream come true. He enjoys all that would be enough to make others around him envy and crave for his position in life. His life till date has been one that has joyfully allowed him to live it to the fullest! He has hardly had any qualms with what life has offered him till date. He somehow feels he is in ‘total control of his life’.

In spite of his completness (as it appears to others), he is deeply aware of some naked truths which he dare not admit, for there is too much at stake. Why did he land himself into such a situation?  Is he allowing himself to be trapped in a visicous circle?

A brief introduction of character B

Character B (Mr. Gregarious, the outspoken types) is a guy who believes that he has struggled hard to be where he is today. For him luck can only be equated to his preparedness to grab opportunities. He has his own set of principles in life. He strongly believes that one needs to be equipped with ’enough skill do justice to a position’. This applies to all walks of his life. Although he may come across as ’not so lucky’ and ‘hasn’t gone places yet’ kinda person, he knows what he needs in life. He is not the ‘fast and the furious’ type. He too has no qualms with life whatsoever. But something irks him from time to time. He believes in taking the life as it comes and believes that it would be a mere folly to presume that one can control  ones own life.

Inspite of him being very sure of what he wants, he hasn’t been able to snub those intermittent ‘worries’ of his life. What is it that bothers him? Why is he giving away to such worries? Are those worries worth his time?

I hope you might have got a fair idea of what constitutes the characters of this post. You might also have gotten a fair idea of what would happen when A meets B. If not, keep checking out this space for more updates.

P.S. On a totally different note altogether, I was wondering if reading fiction (back-to-back) can inspire someone to try their hand at one. I am not sure. Anyway, fiction is fun!!

Interesting point of views on “Listening Carefully”

After a comment I received from “Well Wisher” I feel it makes great sense to publish the comments posted on this article as a separate post.

This is done purely in the spirit of honouring the freshness and diversity of thoughts expressed by readers who care to share their point of views candidly. I highly appreciate that.

An eventuality of this post would be to ensure ease of access to alternative and interesting  thoughts expressed by readers of the blog, on the subject in question.

Here they go…

Vinay : June 20, 2009 at 9:09 PM

Being a good orator you would know all these and more. I am trying to be explicit and assuming that you are talking about a formal meeting, thats all The situation that you have talked about (rather, typed about) is appropriate under SPECIFIC circumstances – It works ONLY when the participants of the Discussion / Meeting are willing to come to a resolution at the end of the discussion – or at least, willing to figure out what works-what does not, what are the areas that need further discussion, etc etc.

It does NOT work when at least one of the participants is hell-bent on puking his/her stuff, overshadowing more legitimate and appropriate issues put forth by the rest of the so called rest of the civilized janataa involved in the discussion. There are a few things that need to be done in such a case. You could try one of the following; I do not guarantee success – your mileage may vary -

1. Be precise in your talk – no general blabber is allowed – make it very clear to the rest of the quorum that you WILL NOT tolerate non-sense

2. If this does not work, use mild deterrents on the offender. Ex: What do you mean by …? Why does it have…? How are you going to justify the…? etc etc. This phase will let the offender THINK before blurting things any further.

3. The ‘merry-go-round’ offenders – Use fairly harsh deterrents. these offenders tend to tell the same thing again, tiring out the quorum till the majority decides to stop listening to him/her. This might work for the time being – but I always PREFER a PERMANENT solution. Ex: You have been telling the same thing again and again and it does not make sense – STOP it NOW or leave! If you have nothing new to add, please let the other guy speak. Your idea won’t fly for x,y,z reason; please do not add anything more on this.

4. The unstoppable! These offenders go on and on and on… no matter what the quorum does. Kick them out of the meeting, with a warning (if it is in your capacity to do so). If the offender is your contemporary or senior, you could use statements like – “I do not agree with what you are saying – so does the quorum. We are deviating from our intended topic of discussion. We do not think you need to be present in this meeting any more, unless you have better things to say regarding the topic of discussion”.

I realize that egos get hurt badly, but hey, what is WRONG is wrong – I do it or some body else. You can make friends with smooth talk but can’t ship products, mate…

Suresh S :this on June 20, 2009 at 9:41 PM | 

 Vinay,

I agree with on a few points but not all. Like the use of deterrent is a very tangible solution. The last one however seems a tad over board for me.

 

But I am afraid the post failed in conveying the idea behind the article.

Do read it again. May be it might make more sense

 

Vinay:  June 20, 2009 at 9:59 PM 

I did get the point – patient listening is a great way to tell that ” I will consider you thoughts as well and let us talk and share ideas before we decide on the matter at hand”. Great – this should be done. Probably you missed the point that I wanted to convey! If you feel appropriate, read my comments again. My comments were meant to augment what you had already mentioned in your post. I wanted to stress on the situations which are very rare. Typically when people are put in to such a situation, they tend to choke; they don’t want to think about it and pray that god never ever again puts them in such a situation “. Yes… in the environment in which we all are, it might look grossly (not a tad) over board, but doing the right thing pays off later. To do the last mentioned thing, you need to be REALLY on top of what you are discussing; a newbie should refrain from taking the last step that I mentioned.

Suresh S : June 21, 2009 at 11:32 AM

@ Vinay,

It rarely happens that even the person presiding over the meeting dares to ask someone in the meeting to leave the room.

For me it is outright an ill mannered behavior. I would rather choose to talk to that person in private and make him/her understand.

I remember once being a part of such a heated discussion where people really went on and on about things that were not a part of the actual discussion. But then it so happened that the meeting really brought some things which otherwise wouldn’t have come out. What was good about it was that even amidst such heated discussion people fortunately allowed others to speak. But this seldom happens very often.

I was referring to a more frequent discussion where people just remain “silent” and not “listen”. This is what beats the whole purpose of being in a meeting. It has got to do more with one’s habit. My article has got more to do with educating oneself and not others about the advantages of listening.

I am sure, if one listens more, people will listen to him/her when he/she speaks! Give it a shot.

Vinay: June 21, 2009 at 12:35 PM

I fail to understand what you meant by “My article has got more to do with educating oneself and not others about the advantages of listening” – it did not make any sense to me.

At office, when ever I screwed up, I was told to mend my ways, bluntly. Though it was embarrassing to start with, it drives home the point that every body is prone to do mistakes – accept it and correct it. I realize that this statement is easier said than done. Since I have done it, I KNOW it can be done and strongly feel that it should be done.

I invariably end up in at least a bunch of meetings daily (official and unofficial) and need to deal with people who exhibit all the features listed in my first comment. So, I know what I am up to when I am in a meeting; If I err, I am MADE TO REALIZE what the mistake so that I do not repeat it.

I am not encouraging people to be rude – I want them to REALIZE that things can get bad – what you could do in such a situation. I am ok with it if you do not agree; at the end of the day it is a personal opinion and opinions tend to be different.

If you want me to STOP putting any more content similar to this in the future, you have multiple options – publish comments after reviewing, or, let me know explicitly to STOP putting comments on your posts – I would be happy to oblige.

M G Harish : June 28, 2009 at 2:30 AM

ಮಂತ್ರಕ್ಕಿಂತ ಉಗುಳೇ ಜಾಸ್ತಿ!

Suresh S:  June 28, 2009 at 6:43 PM |

@ Vinay,

I am sorry if my comments sounded offending. You are most welcome to share your thoughts any time.

@ Harish,

“To see meanness even amidst greatness, you need to be mean enough. To see greatness even amidst meanness, you need to great enough.”

Amen

Namitha : July 8, 2009 at 1:33 PM

categories do you fall into -
1. I-think-I-know-it-all-types
2. I-need-to-speak-something-[or anything]-types
??

 

Suresh S : July 8, 2009 at 10:51 PM   

Namitha,

I- think – types

Well Wisher : July 9, 2009 at 5:19 PM

I am not very good in doing postmortems,nor have any fair idea of how it is done,being an avid reader of all that makes sense to me I like to express my viewpoint on the huge drama that has taken place here.

I feel both Vinay and Suri have a candid view on what they want to convey and have immaculately conveyed in their own ways,though for the world it seems that both of them have taken a differential stand on the same point,I feel both the views are avowed but are subjective to the septs who have gathered at a place to do that talking !

Suri describes the mouthing etiquette and how to gain from any give-and-takes,Vinay is more vexed on keeping the discussion uncluttered and non extraneous,he feels its ok to go a step forward and take the control (though one is not authorized to do so)to make the discussion sensible and save everyone’s time. – perfect…

There is nothing to debate here as both stand on a different intellectual planes and talking two different things that technically to me are non conflicting in itself.

I feel the blogger who created this blog should merge the comments to his original portion and republish the same which makes it totally a bliss for the reader like me.

Any Comments Welcome.

Well Wisher :  July 9, 2009 at 5:29 PM |

 

 Vinay in this second comment as per me is trying to find solutions to his day to day nonprudent encounters that he might have had at office or anywhere else on any rough day which doesnt connect the comment to the theme of the original article,though in a way makes sense in itself.

It mainly addresses his very own thoughts that are lingering and unanswered in the subconcious mind of the commentator rather than connect with the course of the article.

Here it makes sense for the original author not to publish such comment but politely publish the same as another article with a subject “Some interesting politically correct non germane Comments”
that would do justice to both the commentatorand the author

 P.S. Feel free to comment

Who says the letters are out dated?

Last week I got to listen to the audio book,  ‘Perfectly reasonable deviations from the beaten track‘. This book is a collection of letters of Richard P Feynman. After listening to the audio book, a thought that has left me haunting, is the lack of avenues I have had, to write a letter to any of my near and dear ones. After reading the letters written by Feynman, I really felt, how nice would it be if I still could write a letter to my loved ones?

Being born in an electronic era where reaching your loved ones is just a dial or a click away, surely has it its own short comings. Although mobile phones and emails have managed to keep us connected, they have also managed to take away those indescribable emotions of warmth and affection one experiences on reading a letter from a loved one. I feel at times that the ease and frequency of connectivity which a mobile/ or an email has brought, has really taken away true meaning of certain small but wonderful gestures likes ‘Hi’, ‘Hello’, ‘I love you’,  ’I miss you’, ‘Thank you’, etc. They have begun to sound so mundane and emotionless.

The story with emails is no different. I can’t recall any email I have read till date that manages to exude the same warmth and affection as a letter. Just take a look at the way emails get exchanged between people. How many emails you have read till date can you actually recollect word to word or even partially? But if I were to ask you to recollect the sentences from a letter you received from your loved one, chances are high that you may have vivid memories of the same. You may even remember a few strike throughs in the letter.

What is it that really makes us ‘connect better’ to a letter or any hand written note than an email or a printed text?

I feel a hand written note conveys more than just words. It carries with it those little imperfections, the ones that truly symbolize the author of the text. If you want to give it a try, just go through any of your own note books of your college days (or school days if you are lucky). You will really be able to relate to it a lot better than any electronic piece of data you might have created. Can you recall those days of your life? Doesn’t an ink mark or a tea stain carry with it a tale of its own? You may be reminded of hundreds of things the moment you see it. Isn’t it?

The big question is, are we paying a heavy price by relying too much on the electronic way of communication?  Have the letters really lost relevance in today’s world? Is it really so out fashioned to write a letter to your loved one?

After the above statement, you may ask me, “Would you prefer maintain an offline dairy or an online journal?” I really don’t have an answer. While the online journal helps me connect to a wider audience a dairy would be like my soul mate in which I could jot down anything and everything, without any fear.  

P.S. The next time I get a chance to write to any of my loved ones, I will surely write a letter

Listening carefully

• Have you ever felt that you have been doing all the “talking” and haven’t given a chance to others around you to speak?
• Have you ever felt the urge to stop yourself from interrupting someone who is speaking?
• Have you ever felt that you aren’t speaking merely out of “courtesy” towards the person in front of you and not with an intention to completely listen to the person?
• Have you ever come out of a meeting room only to have forgotten the main points discussed in the meeting?
• Have you ever asked the person in front of you to repeat him/her all the way from the beginning, because you lost out in getting the crux of the conversation?

If yes, you definitely aren’t listening much!!

Communication skill by many is presumed to be a something that has got only to do with expressing “your” thoughts alone. In others words it has more to do with the “talking” stuff. But unfortunately it isn’t!!

It can be very tempting in situations like a meeting or a session (or did I say a group discussion) to go on and on with your own ideas, without letting others to share their thoughts. People get so obsessed with this “skill” of theirs that they hardly care to let others speak. And, I am no different!

It has been quite a while since I have been trying hard (really hard) to control that urge to speak. The urge that emanates from being “lost” in your own world and in your own thoughts and ideas, and barely opening yourself to an alternative perspective. It is a world where your thoughts are always the most innovative and creative, while others’ aren’t.

What is so difficult about listening? Well the listening part of it, actually. No pun intended!! The ability to differentiate between “remaining silent” and “listening to others” is very important. Most people falter here. Most people think that merely waiting for the other person to complete and then pitch in with their ideas, is listening. If you are one amongst them, I am afraid you are wrong.

Have you ever really tried to listen to what people around you wanted to say? Give it a shot. For a moment, control all your thoughts and just focus on what the other person is trying to say. You may get to know something you did not know about.

I don’t know how true this is. But this is all I could come up with, to reason out this urge to speak incessantly. Here it goes. I feel that there can be 2 reasons why a person does show this kind of behavior.

1. I-think-I-know-it-all-types: Most often these are the people who tend to do all the talking without letting others speak one bit. They think they know more about a subject than anybody else around them. They hardly care about people around them.
2. I-need-to-speak-something-[or anything]-types: These are the second category of people who want to speak and let their opinions heard, irrespective of the fact that they know something about a topic or not. They care way too much about what others think of them.

At the end of it all, I feel listening to carefully when someone speaks to you is a great way of showing respect to the speaker. Think about it.

P.S. I know it is not easy to get out of this”self indulgent” thing. But I am making a genuine attempt here. Hopefully one day I will surely succeed. This thought is inspired by a chapter in the book “Greatness Guide2 – Robin Sharma” and a very good discussion I had this week with a colleague of mine Thanks to both of them!!